"It is better to be feared than to be loved, if one cannot be both." - Niccolò Machiavelli An age-long debate among leadership experts has always been about whether fear was a more powerful motivator in leadership compared to love. Many business leaders have made...
"I've tried really hard not to yell at my employees. But sometimes I just can't seem to avoid it. I yell so hard, and then I feel so guilty afterwards. I know it isn't really just about what my staff are doing, it's just me, having a hard day and transferring the...
"At the office, my co-founder and I argued publicly in front of our employees. By the time we realized that we had an audience, we were already neck-deep in throwing jabbing words at each other. I felt ashamed because my co-founder also happens to be my wife.” ...
“TBOG…My new year’s resolution is to be a more patient manager. But when I told my team members, they reminded me that I had made the same resolution last year. It punctured my resolve and guilt set in. I feel like a failure, even though somewhere in my heart I know...
"Hello TBOG, in your last email, I noticed that you advocated that parents should not fight in front of their children because it makes the children anxious. But I read somewhere else that fighting is fine as long as you 'make up' afterwards and the children see...
"The other night, my husband and I argued at dinner in front of the children. My five-year-old son yelled at us to ‘Keep quiet!’ … My three-year-old had a tough time going to bed, which is unusual for her. Could this have had anything to do with mommy and daddy...
"I've tried really hard not to yell at my children. But sometimes I just can't avoid it. I yell so hard, and then I feel so guilty afterwards. I know it isn't really about what my children are doing, it's just me, having a hard day and transferring the frustrations....
"TBOG...My new year's resolution is to be a more patient mom. But when I told my thirteen-year-old, she [and my entire family] reminded me that I had made the same resolution last year. It punctured my resolve and guilt set in. I feel like a failure, even...
Picture Source: Freepik “I am close to quitting my career” “I feel as though motherhood is affecting my productivity at work” “I am terrified of getting pregnant because once I do, my chances of making partner will be taken from me” “I love my children but I...
For something as infinite as time, do you suppose it can be managed by finite humans? Are we not basically asking humans who are bound in time to step out of time to control time? I find this notion fascinating and could not resist writing about time management...
“What is the point of being responsible for the work if I am not allowed to take the shine?” “What does she even do? We seem to do all her work for her.” “He never lets us do what we want. How do we learn and grow?” “Why is he micromanaging me, checking on my...
Is there a particular thing we as parents must do to successfully engage our ever tantrum-spewing adolescent? Might there be anything in particular we might be doing wrong as parents that sets up teenage-hood to be a difficult time for us? From our wealth of research and experience, the answer is both yes and no. There are times in life where we can control certain outcomes. But in situations where outcomes cannot be controlled, being equipped with the requisite knowledge helps one to go through with minimal scarring. Such is the adolescence dilemma.